By Staff
“Kids call me Daddy,” says Darren Peters with a quiet smile that holds decades of purpose, growth, and unconditional love. For Darren, fatherhood isn’t just a title—it’s a sacred journey, a calling etched into every fiber of his being. As a proud Black father, he’s embraced the complexities of parenting with equal parts strength and softness, choosing presence over perfection and legacy over ego. Through laughter, faith, tough conversations, and intentional love, Darren has built a foundation his children can always stand on. In this intimate conversation, he opens up about the moments that shaped him, the lessons he lives by, and the joy of simply being “Daddy.”
Can you describe the moment you first became a father and what emotions you experienced?
The moment I first became a father was surreal. It felt like time paused, and the only thing I could hear was Brandon’s first cry. I was overwhelmed—by joy, responsibility, and this deep sense that life had just changed forever. Everything in me shifted in that instant.
What does fatherhood mean to you—not just the title, but the responsibility and the legacy?
To me, fatherhood is a calling. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about being present. It means raising children who understand their worth, their history, and the power within them. It’s about legacy—not just what I leave behind, but how I lead them today: with emotional balance, spiritual grounding, and unwavering love.
In what ways has becoming a father changed you as a man?
It made me softer and stronger at once. I’ve learned to listen more intentionally, to love deeper, and to lead with humility. My priorities shifted—success became less about accolades and more about building a life that empowers my children.
What do you find most fulfilling about being a father?
Watching my children become who they’re meant to be—seeing them discover their voice, passions, and confidence. And it’s the small moments, really: the laughter during holidays, the “Daddy” calls when they need me, the spontaneous video messages. That’s what fills me up.
How do you show love and affection to your children, and how did you learn that language of love?
I show love by being there, by speaking life into them, and by making time to really listen. I say “I love you” often. I learned love through both experience and reflection—figuring out what I needed growing up, and choosing to give that to them.
What are some of the challenges you face as a Black father in today’s world?
The weight of preparing Black children for a world that doesn’t always recognize their full humanity is heavy. I have to equip them with truth, resilience, and pride—while still filling their lives with hope, joy, and celebration of who they are.
How do you teach your children about identity, pride, and navigating the world as a Black child?
Through intentional conversations, stories, and culture. We read books that reflect our beauty, play music that affirms us, and honor our history at home. I want them to know that being Black is not just powerful—it’s sacred.
Can you share a time when you felt especially proud as a father?
I’m proud every day, but there’s something about watching my children understand the value of saying “I love you” that moves me. They get it—that love is not just a word but a way of being.
How do you balance work, purpose, and fatherhood in a way that keeps your family grounded?
I try to align my work with purpose so I’m not split between passion and presence. I set boundaries. I say no to things that take me away from what matters, so I can say yes to the moments that do.
What’s a lesson you’ve learned from your own father or father figure that you’re now passing on?
My grandfather taught me the power of showing up. Even when it’s uncomfortable, even without all the answers—be there. That’s what I pass on: consistency, and being emotionally present.
How do you approach discipline, and what values do you hope to instill in your children?
I lead with guidance, not punishment. I want them to understand consequences with empathy, not fear. I’m raising them to be accountable, compassionate, and resilient.
What’s one of the most joyful or funny moments you’ve had with your child or children?
One Christmas, we all recorded a dance for TikTok—and we laughed the whole night. It wasn’t perfect, but it was pure joy. That memory still brings a smile to my face.
How do you stay mentally and emotionally well while being a father, partner, and provider?
Prayer keeps me grounded. I also rely on honest conversations and check-ins with myself. I’ve learned that taking care of me is taking care of them—you can’t pour from an empty cup.
What kind of conversations do you have with your children about love, respect, and relationships?
I remind them that love isn’t always easy, but it should be rooted in kindness, patience, and honesty. I teach them that respect starts with themselves—and it must extend to others.
What does “being present” look like for you as a father?
It means putting the phone down, making eye contact, and truly listening. It’s being fully engaged—not just physically there, but emotionally available.
Are there any myths or stereotypes about Black fatherhood that you’re working to dismantle through how you show up?
Absolutely. The stereotype that Black fathers are absent is one I dismantle daily—by showing up with love, consistency, and intention. We’ve always been here. I’m living proof.
How do you support and uplift other Black fathers in your community?
Through mentorship and honest conversations. I create space for vulnerability and brotherhood, because we need each other. I try to be the kind of support I’d want in my corner.
What role does spirituality, culture, or tradition play in how you raise your children?
Spirituality grounds us. Culture connects us. Tradition gives rhythm to our lives. All of it shapes how I raise my children—with reverence, gratitude, and joy.
What’s one thing you hope your children remember most about their childhood with you?
That they were deeply loved. That home was always their safe place. That their father was their biggest fan—and still is.
If you only could say one thing to your child/children knowing that you would never see them again, what would that be?
Never doubt how fiercely I loved you. Let that love guide you for the rest of your life—because it’s yours to carry, always.
