By Staff
Jiles King stands tall in both the arts and in fatherhood—a man of vision, purpose, and unwavering love. As a father to eight children—some biological, others chosen—his journey is not defined by convention but by intention. From the quiet, soul-shaking moment he became a father to the countless days he has shown up with pride, humor, and strength, Jiles has committed himself to a legacy of presence, protection, and purpose. His story is one of reflection, resilience, and radical love—a portrait of Black fatherhood that challenges stereotypes and inspires community.
Can you describe the moment you first became a father and what emotions you experienced?
When I became a father, I thought I would cry, pass out, maybe even scream—but none of that happened. I was quiet and reflective. Watching this little human enter the world and then immediately grab my finger—there are no words for that. It was a powerful, grounding moment that changed everything.
What does fatherhood mean to you—not just the title, but the responsibility and the legacy?
I’ve been blessed to be a father to eight amazing young people. While not all of them are my biological children, the responsibility I have for each of them and the legacy I’m building is something I carry with deep intention. People often ask how I manage parenting eight children, but for me, it comes naturally. Each of them has something that’s just ours—a shared connection that’s unique and unforced. That’s the foundation of our bond.
In what ways has becoming a father changed you as a man?
Fatherhood shifted my entire perspective. I realized I could no longer make decisions just for myself—everything I do now impacts them too. Even the way I care for my health has changed. I want to be there for every milestone—from my youngest’s wedding to law school graduation. They push me to be the best version of myself every single day.
What do you find most fulfilling about being a father?
Showing up. That’s the part that fills me the most. Whether it’s a volleyball game or a school play, seeing their faces light up when they spot me in the crowd—that moment of recognition, of knowing they are supported—makes it all worth it.
How do you show love and affection to your children, and how did you learn that language of love?
Each of my children speaks a different love language, and I’ve learned to embrace that. My youngest daughter might take her time and seek physical closeness, while my oldest son sends memes that we both find hilarious. It’s about meeting them where they are and understanding that love isn’t one-size-fits-all.
What are some of the challenges you face as a Black father in today’s world?
I worry constantly. In Trump’s America, my children’s skin color is often seen as a threat. My boys are unfairly labeled as thugs, and my girls are hypersexualized instead of being seen for the intelligent, pure-hearted people they are. I carry the daily challenge of affirming them beyond society’s limited and often harmful views.
How do you teach your children about identity, pride, and navigating the world as a Black child?
The best example my wife and I can give is how we live. We work every day to break generational curses and create a model of what strong, present, and loving Black parents look like. That’s how we teach them pride—by showing them what it looks like in action.
What’s a lesson you’ve learned from your own father or father figure that you’re now passing on?
My father always showed up—whether it was sports, theater, or choir. Even when something wasn’t in his comfort zone, he was still there. And he continues to show up for me to this day. That consistency left a mark on me. I make sure my children feel that same sense of support and presence. I want them to know I will always be there.
Are there any myths or stereotypes about Black fatherhood that you’re working to dismantle through how you show up?
Absolutely. The narrative that Black men are absent or disengaged fathers is something I confront every day. By being present, loving, and intentional, I’m helping to rewrite that story—not just for my kids, but for anyone who’s watching.
What role does spirituality, culture, or tradition play in how you raise your children?
My wife and I are both active in ministry at our church, and our children work alongside us. Even when they seem like they’re not paying attention, they surprise us with conversations that show just how much they’ve absorbed. Our faith is a constant thread in how we raise them—quietly shaping their values and worldview.
